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We Shall Win By Love And Never Giving Up!

By Candace Reels

We Shall Win By Love And Never Giving Up!

“Hate, it has caused a lot of problems in the world, but has not solved one yet.”

- Maya Angelou

We should not have to live in a country where school shootings are normal, yet it seems to be the case. There has been 18 mass shootings this year alone and it’s only February! I know how hard it is to have hope, but we have to somehow continue to hold on to that glimmer of hope that we will be able to find a way to stop these horrific events from happening. So below I wrote down the ways that always helps me get through and leads me a step closer to making a difference.

1.) Give yourself a day, a week, or a month to process such a horrific event.

I know it’s important to stay informed, but being overexposed to the news can cause stress. We become overwhelmed, sad, angry, and it really effects you mentally. In order to take care of our mental health we must give ourselves time to process everything that has happened. That can include social media and television breaks. Use this time to take care of yourself, which will help when it’s time to get in the fight again!

2.) Donate to organizations that advocates for gun control and against gun violence.

Everytown For Gun Safety: encourages Americans to work together to end gun violence and build safer communities.

Brady Campaign: The mission of the Brady organization and it’s million mom march is to create a safer America by cutting gun deaths in half by 2025.

Giffords: Founded by mass shooting survivor and former Arizona House Representative Gabrielle Giffords. This organization fights to reduce gun violence by working to pass related legislation, educating and empowering people on voting, and supporting candidates dedicated to addressing the nation’s gun laws.

The Coalition To Stop Gun Violence: They believe that all Americans have a right to live in communities free from gun violence through policy development, strategic engagement, and effective advocacy. They address gun violence in all its forms from suicide to intimate partner homicide to the shootings that never make headlines.

3.) Check to see which of your elected officials have received money from the NRA.

Remember the names of the elected officials who have received money from the NRA and make sure you will vote them out midterms, Nov 6th 2018. Until then continue to call/text/mail/tweet them and demand that they take action now! Here is a article by Politico with how much each elected official had received from the NRA in 2016: https://www.politico.com/interactives/2017/gun-lobbying-spending-in-america-congress/

Also here is how you can contact your elected officials:

*Call 202-224-3121

  • This number will direct you the Capitol switchboard. When you call, ask to be connected to your senator or representative. The operator will direct your call to their office.

*Contact your Federal Elected Officials, State Elected Officials, and Local Elected Officials through this website: https://www.usa.gov/elected-officials/

4.) Make sure you’re registered to VOTE!

As well as your family, friends, and neighbors, here is a website to check to make sure you will be ready for midterms: https://www.vote.org/

5.) DON'T give up!

I know we are barely holding on and the easy thing to do is give up. But we can’t! We have to continue to fight and stand up for what is right. It won’t be an easy fight, but oh will it be beyond worth it when we win. Because as long as we continue to speak out, we will make change happen! Let’s continue to take action, work together, and get something done! I know times are dark, but I see a bright future.

Candace Reels

 

 

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Self Care For Those Consumed By Social Media

By Candace Reels

Self Care For Those Consumed By Social Media

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”

- Audre Lorde

I started Female Collective two years ago and I absolutely love that I created a platform where I'm able to talk about Intersectional Feminism, Self Love, and Self Care everyday. A big part of my job is to be on social media constantly which has many benefits, but it can also become very overwhelming and not great for your mental health. You start comparing your life to what you are seeing others doing online, there's constant news about the Orange Joffrey and his minions, you have internet trolls that are trying their best to bring you down, and the list goes on and on. So below are a few ways I like to take care of my mental health without deleting all my social media accounts ( which has happen several times hehe ) 

1. Give yourself a social media time limit.

This works for everyone, but perfect for those who's jobs require them to be on social media. Manually you can give yourself a starting time and end time of being on social media. Remember to keep these times realistic. There's an app available to help you with setting time limits called MOMENT, it tracks your device usage and allows you to set daily limits; the app notifies you if you exceed them. You can even use a setting that forces you off your phone by flooding your screen with annoying alerts when you try to extend your screen time. 

2. Turn off notifications.

If you aren't constantly notified about what's going on online, you will be less inclined to check and see what's happening constantly.

2. Designate technology-free times.

It can be for a few hours before bed each night, or maybe it's in the morning where you can be spending that time meditating or reading your affirmations ( more on that in a later post ) Spend this technology-free time being present with yourself, relationships, and activities that you enjoy.

2. Unfollow every account on Instagram that makes you feel like you need to be someone else.

If you're following any accounts that has you judging yourself, making you feel inadequate about what you're doing with you life, and sending you on a downward spiral...you must unfollow them. 

3. Follow accounts that inspire you.

One of the many reasons I created Female Collective was to create a safe and supportive space for ALL women. So I make sure to post content that celebrates, empowers, uplifts, and supports all women. There are also many Instagram accounts that do the same; including the following @cleowade, @rupikaur, @feministabulous, @dontcallmepretty, @spreadgirllove, and @tribedemama to name a few. 

4. Don't let what you see on Instagram trick you into thinking you are inadequate or not worthy.

Remind yourself that people post what they want you to see and that nobody's life is perfect. We must remember that most people only post what they want you to see. It's a curation of most people's best moments. Everyone has insecurities and pain they're dealing with. The grass is not greener on the other side. Just know that no one is better than anyone and we're all special in our own way. You matter, you're loved, and you're enough. 

5. Do a 1 day, 1 week, or 1 month social media detox.

Delete your social media apps and spend that time engaging in the world in front of you and not on your screen.

Please share with me some of your self care tips on taking care of your mental health while still being on social media.

Xo,

Candace 

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Music Monday: Bad Witches Playlist

By Candace Reels

Music Monday: Bad Witches Playlist

Adding to our Bad Witches Playlist here are 6 additional songs featuring women who stay true themselves and reminds us to stay true to ourselves. Enjoy!

Solange

"Don't touch my hair, when it's the feelings I wear"

Don't Touch My Hair

 

Sevdaliza

"I am flesh, bones, I am skin, soul I am human. Nothing more than human. I am sweat, flaws. I am veins, scars, I am human. Nothing more than human"

Human

 

Nao

"Lying on my back, seeing clouds and rays. Drinking lime and bitter from my lemonade"

Bad Blood

 

SZA

"I'm sorry you got karma comin' to you. Collect and soak in it right."

Drew Barrymore

 

The Internet

"If they don't know your worth, tell 'em you're my girl. And anything you want is yours."

Girl

 

Lion Babe

"What a day in our little world. Out here riding with the waves. Sweet escape finds me every day. At home where the heart is, where the heart is."

Hit The Ceiling

 

 

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Music Monday: Bad Witches Playlist

By Candace Reels

Music Monday: Bad Witches Playlist

A playlist featuring 6 incredible female artists who don't play by the rules and stay true to themselves. They're basically some of the baddest witches in the industry right now. These songs are a true empowerment to women and gives us the feels to continue being bad ass witches ourselves. Enjoy!

Princess Nokia

"Good witches, I fuck with. Bad bitches, we run shit."

Brujas

Kali Uchis

"I don't need your drama, I don't need you to survive"

Ridin' Round

 Abra

"Eat the fruit that feeds your spirit. On your knees, now baby eat it, eat it."

Fruit

Jorja Smith

"Unlike before when you and I laid eye to eye. Now it's time for you to taste the bitter end."

On My Mind

Leikeli47

"Rockstar, mixed with a ghetto chick"

Money

Banks

"Cause my love so good. So I fuck with myself more than anybody else"

I F With Myself

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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