“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
- Audre Lorde
I started Female Collective two years ago and I absolutely love that I created a platform where I'm able to talk about Intersectional Feminism, Self Love, and Self Care everyday. A big part of my job is to be on social media constantly which has many benefits, but it can also become very overwhelming and not great for your mental health. You start comparing your life to what you are seeing others doing online, there's constant news about the Orange Joffrey and his minions, you have internet trolls that are trying their best to bring you down, and the list goes on and on. So below are a few ways I like to take care of my mental health without deleting all my social media accounts ( which has happen several times hehe )
1. Give yourself a social media time limit.
This works for everyone, but perfect for those who's jobs require them to be on social media. Manually you can give yourself a starting time and end time of being on social media. Remember to keep these times realistic. There's an app available to help you with setting time limits called MOMENT, it tracks your device usage and allows you to set daily limits; the app notifies you if you exceed them. You can even use a setting that forces you off your phone by flooding your screen with annoying alerts when you try to extend your screen time.
2. Turn off notifications.
If you aren't constantly notified about what's going on online, you will be less inclined to check and see what's happening constantly.
2. Designate technology-free times.
It can be for a few hours before bed each night, or maybe it's in the morning where you can be spending that time meditating or reading your affirmations ( more on that in a later post ) Spend this technology-free time being present with yourself, relationships, and activities that you enjoy.
2. Unfollow every account on Instagram that makes you feel like you need to be someone else.
If you're following any accounts that has you judging yourself, making you feel inadequate about what you're doing with you life, and sending you on a downward spiral...you must unfollow them.
3. Follow accounts that inspire you.
One of the many reasons I created Female Collective was to create a safe and supportive space for ALL women. So I make sure to post content that celebrates, empowers, uplifts, and supports all women. There are also many Instagram accounts that do the same; including the following @cleowade, @rupikaur, @feministabulous, @dontcallmepretty, @spreadgirllove, and @tribedemama to name a few.
4. Don't let what you see on Instagram trick you into thinking you are inadequate or not worthy.
Remind yourself that people post what they want you to see and that nobody's life is perfect. We must remember that most people only post what they want you to see. It's a curation of most people's best moments. Everyone has insecurities and pain they're dealing with. The grass is not greener on the other side. Just know that no one is better than anyone and we're all special in our own way. You matter, you're loved, and you're enough.
5. Do a 1 day, 1 week, or 1 month social media detox.
Delete your social media apps and spend that time engaging in the world in front of you and not on your screen.
Please share with me some of your self care tips on taking care of your mental health while still being on social media.